I am a Nudist
I've mulled over writing my perspective for several years, and I even created a draft. Now that I am single again and attending clubs by myself, I find that my original message and impression has not changed from when I first formulated it some 15 years ago.
I, like most women, was self–conscious, embarrassed and nervous about the prospect of going out in public nude. I went and participated because my partner at the time asked me to. As we explored more venues, I gained more confidence and then when I became single, there was no looking back. I have formulated my own opinions and this is what I wish to share.
First, it is the safest place for a single female to be. I have no hesitation to go to any club alone and I do. It's the one place I have found where women are truly revered, appreciated and openly welcomed. There is respect for having the courage to accept one's body image and to put aside American society's media blasts of what the perfect and accepted woman is.
A particular observation/experience continues to bother me and that is when I meet married men who have been married many years, most 20 plus years. I introduce myself. We begin sharing and I'm told by this gentleman that he cannot get his wife to attend. It saddens me that I cannot reach out to these women to explain to them that it is not me that he wishes to be by his side, talking, sharing a meal at the potluck or asking for a brief and casual dance. It is you, his wife. He is there to relax, enjoy and rejuvenate within the confines of like-minded people. I can only speculate that maybe she has lost this connection within her marriage. I feel if I would reach out to her or ask him if he would like for me to help her gain trust in the environment, that I would still be considered a threat.
Nudist communities are unique. There isn't a club I have been to where the folks aren't friendly, welcoming and genuinely glad I'm there. I am a single parent and it is where I seek to be when my daughter is with her father on holidays. I have my nudist family to spend the event with, my extended family, a family that accepts me just the way I am. As with any family, there are issues that arise and members have their opinions about things that have taken place. This is no different than it is in any family.
Those that know me know that I am not a religious person per se. I bring this up because I know for some folks the idea of nudity encompasses their core belief system of being a Christian or faith-based individual. For some reason nudity has been sold as immoral and unchristian like behavior, perverted and disgusting. Really, I say, then you are biased and not open-minded. One's faith does not mean it has to be clothed. One's faith is one's relationship with God. There are far greater topics and beliefs that encompass the word "perverted." Social nudity does not exploit an individual.
I hope that those women who still have a fear and predisposed ideas of going to a club, venue or beach would consider the courage and honor it takes to be a nudist. Married or single, it does not matter. Once you recognize the philosophy and embrace it, I find it rare for that individual to not have and benefit from those relationships that are formulated poolside. My name is Linda and I am a nudist